Recently I have noticed an increase of girls changing their Facebook profile pictures from individual shots of themselves to photos of themselves with either brides on their wedding day or newlyweds. At first I thought this was a standard change, as in a regular photo change to include a new friend or a salute to an old one. However, after some research into this phenomenon I realized that there was more behind it.
Numerous sgulaot regarding marriage have become popular over the past few years.
Akin to the practice of dipping one's fingers into the post extinguishment wine and dabbing it over the eyes (for healthy vision), the forehead (for seichel, wisdom) or the pockets (for parnassa, livelihood), a single girl dips her fingertip into the wine and dabs in on her left ring finger, in the hopes that it will be a segulah that a real ring should find its way there soon.
A more popular sgulah is where girls and a number of boys do not sit at the corner of the table or they will stay single forever.
The sgulot do not end there. Now, if one changes their facebook profile picture to include a bride or newlywed, marriage will occur within the year. This ‘sgulah’ has caused much division and animosity within the orthodox world.
Rabbi Yitzchok Meir Zeiglewasser, writes that because Internet and computers are assur min hatoroh it is impossible for the Facebook profile picture to be a sgulah, rather it is an avairah which would subsequently end up in a life of singlehood, “rather a child not be brought into the world, than a child brought up in the home of Facebook.”
In response to this Mark Zuckerberg sued.
The old adage sums the issue of sgulot up nicely. A man who had trouble in his marriage, complained to his rabbi: "It says that folding the tallit immediately after havdalah is a sgulah for shalom bayit. I always do it, yet, it does not help." The rabbi answered: " I have a better sgulah for you. After havdalah, roll up your sleeves and go wash the dishes."
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